Eat to Love: A Mindful Guide to Transforming Your Relationship With Food, Body, and Life by Jenna Hollenstein

Author:Jenna Hollenstein [Hollenstein, Jenna]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781732277632
Google: DcBhvQEACAAJ
Amazon: 173227763X
Goodreads: 43178968
Publisher: Lionheart Press
Published: 2019-01-10T00:00:00+00:00

How You Talk about Your Body and Other Bodies

This is the third form of fearlessness. There is a certain accepted language many of us use when speaking with others that is as predictable as reading a script. Fat talk, diet comparisons, and body bashing, of ourselves or others, are ways of bonding and finding common ground, particularly among women. The path of fearlessness includes disrupting this conditioned language and having new conversations. The simplest way to disrupt such talk is to not participate, to stonewall, to walk away, or to stand in silence while others wonder why you are not engaging. This interrupts the momentum of such exchanges and offers you or anyone else who wants to talk about more enlightening subjects a chance to introduce another topic. Refraining in this way requires great bravery. When you first try, expect to feel a certain amount of anxiety, which will naturally rise, level off, and then dissipate as you sit with it, again something your meditation practice trains you to accommodate.

A more direct approach to disrupting these conversations includes calling out biased talk and making the connection between it, weight stigma, and fat bias in our culture. Even if you do find yourself participating in this type of dialogue, it is important not to beat yourself up. Changing neural pathways is hard work (more on this in the chapter on the paramita of discipline). Noticing, reflecting, becoming nonjudgmentally curious, and resolving not to get hooked next time is a fearlessly generous way to respond. These actions free you and others up to have deeper, more meaningful conversations about things that matter.

How can you disrupt the conditioned language of magical eating? When confronted with others engaging in diet talk, fat talk, and body bashing, how could you respond? What do you observe when you disrupt the language of magical eating?

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